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  • 论慕强
    • 挣钱能力是一个容易量化的维度，而更深层次的强体现在包容力上
    • 真正的强大不是对抗、压制或控制，而是理解、接纳与包容
  • 爱是无数个平淡生活里的风雨共济
  • 为自己爱的人不理智就是理智 (你就活一次)
  • 爱情需要「忍耐与包容」，不要放弃努力
  • 当你和另一伴吵架时你们要记得是「你们 vs 问题」，而不是「你 vs 她」。
  • You don't love because: you love despite; not for the virtues, but despite the faults.
  • Channeling of resources to signify seriousness via buying an expensive ring or gift
  • Emotional support via being available in times of trouble and listening to partner's problems
  • All the mating cues — economic resources, social status, and older age — add up to one thing: the ability of a man to acquire and control resources that women can use for themselves and for their children.
  • Apology
    • Apologize early
    • Recap where you did wrong
    • Promise How you're gonna make it right from now on
  • Vagina Tightness Demystified
    • When a woman is completely aroused and comfortable, the vagina not only lubricates itself, but it lengthens and expands to accommodate a penis.
    • The myth of "tight" and "loose" vaginas is misogynistic bullshit. The vagina is a muscle. It will tighten or stretch to allow any size of penis. If people were provided a decent sex education, or a sex education at all, a lot of this sexist/incel bullshit wouldn't even exist.
  • 爱的描写
    • 发现了，男作家描写自己爱上一个女人的场景，和女人完全不同，女作家的描写，心动往往伴随着男人的付出，例如张爱玲冲破王芝佳防线的，是易先生送她那一枚巨大的粉色鸽子蛋戒指，她的爱在那一刻，被冲到了巅峰。
    • 但男作家的描述，往往是这个女孩的瞬间，男人最初的爱很纯洁，是你在做什么，你在什么场景内，你什么都不用对我做。
  • Open Up to Someone Else
    • The biggest problem in the dialogue phase is fear. Intimacy happens when somebody shares something emotionally meaningful, and the other person receives it and shares back. One obvious fear is that you'll expose your tender flesh and the other person will trample it and then leave. Another obvious fear is that you'll discover that the other person seeks a future you cannot provide. The deeper and more potent fear is that in exposing yourself to others you will actually understand yourself.
  • 「爱」是一项需要习得的技能
    • 良好的家庭关系和社会关系可以让很多人在潜移默化里学会如何表达爱历经岁月的洗礼和多段感情的锻炼也可以学会自爱与爱人。
    • 没有人一上来就会这件事，早点晚点都很正常。值得唏嘘的是"以为你我都会"，于是匆忙进入到一段关系或婚姻契约中，却又无法忍受彼此成长的磨合
  • 养娃是一场持久战
    • 孩子的逻辑可以很简单，但是并不意味着没有逻辑，更不意味着不需要逻辑。在孩子面前也需要时刻做到逻辑自洽，因为他们经常会把过去看到的逻辑和当下串联起来，一旦遇到不通顺的地方，他们就会好奇，就会不理解，就会表现异样。
    • 他们对这个世界了解的非常少，能够理解的也很少，所以时刻保持着好奇心和探索欲。用孩子可以理解的语言去解释那些大人们才懂的道理，他们会深刻记在脑海中，而且会在意想不到的时候将它表达出来。
    • 我常常看到，孩子的哭闹，背后其实是大人对孩子需求的不理解，而不理解的背后往往是沟通的问题，当然也可能是大人压根就不想理解，他们只希望孩子可以按照大人的指令去执行动作，而忘记了自己正在扼杀孩子的天性。